Losing a loved one is a challenging time, and preparing for a funeral takes careful planning and consideration. To help you navigate this process, we’ve put together a comprehensive checklist to ensure you cover all the necessary aspects of arranging and preparing for a meaningful and respectable funeral.
1. Documentation and Legal Matters
- Obtain the death certificate: Contact the relevant authorities to acquire the official death certificate.
- Ensure your will is updated and registered with The U.S. Will Registry and a copy is uploaded and stored in SideDrawer.com. These services are both free and offer safekeeping for your estate documents.
- Notify relevant parties: Inform family members, close friends, and the deceased’s employer (if applicable) about the passing.
2. Preplan, but Avoid Prepayment
Funeral homes often market plans with potential savings if you buy a package well in advance. According to experts from the Funeral Consumers Alliance (FCA), you should exercise caution.
Experts emphasize that planning and prepayment are distinct. “You can thoroughly plan a funeral without committing to prepayment,”.
Consider comparing options at the time of need. If you purchase plans within a short period of passing, then it will be a safe choice. The downside of prepayment too far in advance is the potential for shifting circumstances between payment and the event. Funeral homes could close, rendering your prepaid plan void, or your passing might occur far from the prepaid funeral’s location.
If you’re concerned about financing your funeral, consider setting up a payable-on-death account. This account enables a designated beneficiary to access funds when you pass, intended for funeral expenses. Operating like a standard bank account, regular deposits can be made throughout your lifetime.
3. Choose a Funeral Home
- Research local funeral homes: Look for reputable funeral homes in your area that offer the services you need.
- Consultation: Schedule a consultation with the chosen funeral home to discuss your preferences and budget.
4. Decide on the Type of Service
- Burial or cremation: Decide whether you will opt for a burial or cremation, considering the deceased’s wishes if known.
- Religious or secular: Determine whether the service will be religious, secular, or a combination of both.
- Private family viewing or public viewing?
- Do you want the casket open or closed?
- Graveside service or a service at the crematory Memorial service (takes place after burial or cremation)
5. Funeral Service Arrangements
- Venue: Select a suitable location for the funeral service, such as a place of worship, funeral home, or a preferred outdoor spot.
- Officiant: Arrange for an officiant to lead the service, whether it’s a religious leader, celebrant, or family member.
- Eulogies and speeches: Coordinate with family members or friends who wish to deliver eulogies or speeches during the service.
6. Create a Budget
- Estimate costs: Make a detailed budget that includes expenses like the funeral service, casket or urn, transportation, flowers, and catering.
- Consider assistance: Check if there are any financial assistance options available to help cover the costs.
7. Practical Arrangements
- Choose a casket or urn: Select a casket for burial or an urn for cremation based on your preferences and budget.
- Floral arrangements: Decide on the type of flowers and arrangements you’d like to have at the service.
- Transportation: Arrange transportation for the deceased from the funeral home to the service location.
8. Inform Attendees
- Create an obituary: Draft an obituary to share information about the deceased’s life, service details, and any donation preferences.
- Notify guests: Inform friends, family, and acquaintances about the funeral details through various communication channels.
9. Reception and After-Service Gathering
- Reception venue: Choose a location for the post-funeral gathering, whether it’s at a family member’s home, a restaurant, or a community center.
- Catering: Arrange for catering services for the reception, taking into account dietary preferences and restrictions.
- Memorial options: Consider if you want to create a memorial website, plant a tree, or establish a charitable fund in memory of the deceased.
- Thank-you notes: Prepare thank-you cards in advance to express gratitude to attendees and those who offered support.
11. Post-Funeral Tasks for Surviving Family Members
- Arrange for Legal Notifications: Inform relevant institutions such as banks, insurance companies, and government agencies about the death.
- Grief support: Connect with grief counseling services or support groups to help family members cope with the loss.
12. Veteran Benefits
- A veterans burial allowance helps pay for transportation, funeral, and burial costs for an eligible veteran. If qualified, the VA will repay a fixed amount for these costs.
Preparing for a funeral involves a series of important steps, and this checklist is designed to guide you through the process. While the emotional journey may be difficult, careful planning can help ensure that your loved one’s final tribute is a meaningful and respectful event that honors their memory.